To judge or not to judge?
"Sometimes," said Bledyard, "it is unavoidably our duty to attempt to attempt some sort of judgement — and then the suspension of judgement is not charity but the fear of being judged in return."
"you speak as if to be a free man was just to get what you want regardless of convention. But real freedom is a total absence of concern about yourself."
From The Sandcastle by Iris Murdoch